Ghosting is very painful.
So you met someone nice. For a short time, you experienced something magical. Then somehow it’s taken away from you without any explanation. When you are ghosted, it may not be you about trying to get over that person but rather, the unexplainable betrayal that you feel. How dare they?
Whether you have been ghosted after a few dates or after seeing someone for a few months, it’s never something that you want to happen to you because it will likely leave you angry, confused and even blame yourself, your self-doubt sets in – is it something I said or did I do something wrong? STOP!
Before you dig yourself into trouble, here are some tips on how you can handle being ghosted.
1. Accept Whatever You Feel And Allow Yourself To Feel Hurt
Don’t hold back your tears. It might feel sad for a long time especially if you have told friends how excited you were about someone you are very into that you’ve just met or maybe you feel embarrassed thinking about how you behaved the last time you saw him or her. However, you need to remember that ghosting says more about the other person than you because a mature and well-grounded person would give you closure as a sign of respect to which they have none.
2. Be Gentle With Yourself And Have Sympathy For Your Emotions
Wedding Celebrant Jay Flood says: “Whatever you are feeling is a normal response to a terrible situation. It would be worrying if the situation didn’t affect you negatively.”. So, this is something you should definitely keep in mind.
3. Talk To People
Talk to your friends, family or therapist about it if need be. Your feelings need to be validated. By talking to people or to an expert, you allow negative thoughts to slowly process out of your mind.
4. Sleep And Eat Well, Exercise And Practice Mindfulness
With proper physical health, you can count on the best mental health – meditate, practice yoga and mindfulness. Do things that make you feel good about yourself. Do things that remind you that you are capable of looking after yourself.
5. Compassion
If you can allow it, put yourself in the Ghoster’s shoes. Doing this will empower you to have some compassion for the other person and you may come to realise that they didn’t know you at all and have missed out on a wonderful person. By putting yourself in their shoes, you can wish them well, because maybe, they could have been in an emotionally confusing and horrible place when they met you.
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